The Best Sexual Wellness Tools That Put Your Pleasure First

We love Lelo for their luxurious, high-quality tech and their Soraya Wave vibrator is no different. It has eight pleasure settings, a flexible arm, and powerful vibrations that deliver G-spot and clitoris stimulation simultaneously.

For those just starting out on their pleasure journey, might we recommend the Dame Dip 2.0? It only has one button, which you press to sift through five unique patterns and intensity levels for either internal or external stimulation. You can also use any USB-C cable to charge it.

This is a massager, solo vibrator, and partner toy wrapped up in one. It has a shallow tip for easier penetration and two motors so you can choose between a “buzzy” or “rumbly” vibe. If you’re experiencing extra sensitivity down there, this is a great option.

This is a whisper-quiet vibe you can throw in your clutch. It’s approximately 4.3 inches long (that’s smaller than an iPhone) and has a rounded head that’s fully flexible to contour to your body. Sift through 10 settings to find the one that’s just right and enjoy your most discreet pleasure session to date.

Ah, Dame. How do you do it? The Aer vibrator uses strategically timed pulses of air to mimic a human tongue for new levels of pleasure. It can run for an hour and a half without needing a charge. If you’re looking for a quick but hefty O, add this one to cart.

Alice’s mushroom chocolate is a mood-enhancing aid that moonlights as a sweet treat. It’s made with natural ingredients — like ashwagandha, cordyceps mushrooms, and cayenne pepper — to help boost blood circulation and hormonal balance, and therefore, your urge and stamina. Eat one square daily to build a better sex drive and satisfaction over time. For more immediate results, eat two right before intimacy.

This set of four stretchy, stackable rings go around the base of the penetrating partner, while giving you full control of the depth of insertion. It works well with condoms, but if you go without, be sure to add lube for maximum comfort. You’ll also get a travel pouch and a few convo starters to kick off the night.

Finally, a water-based lube that feels silky smooth with zero extras or irritating fragrances. Lola’s formula is hypoallergenic and pH-balanced for better vaginal health. It has an easy one-pump dispenser for a mess-free experience that won’t interrupt your moment.

If you’re down to try something a little more adventurous, go with this bestselling, all-natural arousal oil. Use it internally, externally, solo, or with a partner for enhanced pleasure and bigger orgasms, thanks to its unique blend of broad-spectrum CBD and organic botanicals.

Ever heard of a sex concierge? Neither had one of our editors, until she tried Arya. First, you and your partner will take a quiz to find out your “erotic personas.” Then, you’ll connect with your own personal concierge who will send you a box each month with toys, accessories, and more, before guiding you through a corresponding scene.   

Four words: Over 1,000 erotic stories. Female-founded Dipsea’s expansive library houses episodes written by professional writers and brought to life by captivating narrators. Their app is easy to navigate, with an advanced search system you can filter based on your favorite characters, tropes, and sexual preferences. Think of these as your new favorite bedtime stories.

Quinn is Dipsea’s scrappier, creative younger cousin. You’ll explore a mix of stories written by celebrities including Lucien Laviscount of Bridgerton fame, and known writers like Tessa Bailey, as well as individual creators who DIY their own content.

It’s no secret we’re fans of Esther Perel, and this easy-to-read guide to all things relationships and sex only further proves our point. It analyzes topics like power dynamics in and outside of the bedroom (spoiler: they don’t always mix). It’s engaging, informative, and a great option for any couple looking for their next book club read.

We’re living in the golden age of romance novels. We’ve found that these steamy reads have opened up a whole new way to experience pleasure and fantasy, enhancing our own romantic lives in the process. Some of our favorite romance writers this year? Tessa Bailey, Sierra Simone, Kristina Forest, Myah Ariel, Carissa Broadbent, Jasmine Guillory, and the romance novella publisher 831 Stories. Check out our spicy reading list for more inspiration. 

Our expert considers this an “essential read for folks looking to explore their sexual self beyond the confines of traditional relationships.” It gives you an in-depth look at the “why” of relationships and intimacy, while also sharing practical advice.

This brand was started by two moms trying to find comfortable, toxin-free  pads for young teens and tweens. The pads are ultra-thin with leakproof wings for full protection, and they come in discreet packaging they can feel comfortable tossing in their backpack. They come in a variety of sizes, ranging from mini to overnight.

If you deal with cramps each cycle, this hemp-powered wearable patch is your solve. It’s infused with 15 mg of hemp extract and other natural ingredients that can help alleviate cramps and discomfort. Just peel, stick, and let it work its magic for up to 12 hours.

There’s a reason this period underwear is a second-time winner. Each style is made from a thin yet opaque material that creates just enough compression to feel good and secure. The “pad” is sewn in and prevents any and all leaks — one editor even wore it overnight on her heaviest day and reported zero leakage and a comfortable sleep. They come in five different absorbency levels and a ton of different cuts. Plus, they hold up well in the wash.

Simply put, this is the easiest article of clothing you’ll ever throw in your tote. Each panic panty looks like a style you’d pick up at a store, but is designed to be packed at the last minute since they’re individually wrapped. They’re prewashed, breathable, and will keep you feeling fresh.

If you’re a fan of smooth, easy applicators (without potentially harmful materials you can’t pronounce), you’ll love Viv. Their tampons are completely toxin-free and made of 100% organic cotton. They’re both earth-friendly and comfortable. Plus, their subscription option prevents emergency trips to the drug store.

The only thing better than a toy that will get you both off is one that will do it hands-free. This vibrating ring uses three intensity levels and three patterns to increase blood flow for the penetrating partner, while targeting your erogenous zones. It’s water-resistant (hello shower play), but lube is recommended for a more comfortable fit.

That being said, sometimes a little manual labor goes a long way. This Maude vibrator is discreet in both design and volume, but its three speeds are so effective, they patented them. It runs for an hour and a half without needing a charge, and comes with a travel mode for worry-free packing.

The best condoms are the ones that don’t feel like condoms at all. These are prelubricated and made of a latex-free material that’s 15% thinner than Skyn’s original condoms. Which allows you and your partner to feel…everything else.

Think of this as the sexual equivalent of adding a walking pad under your standing desk — only more fun. This remote-controlled silicone toy lets you alternate between five vibration settings when inserted. When in training mode, the remote control lights up depending on the strength of your kegel exercise. Use it weekly to train your pelvic floor muscles, or pass the remote to your partner to switch things up.

Arya wins again for introducing us to these handmade leather cuffs from Liebe Seele. They’re deliciously smooth to the touch and fully adjustable to ensure a snug fit and easy release. They feel luxurious and will make your next night in one to remember.